About Me

I am a 58 year old man with terminal cancer and a desire to provide a legacy to help others deal with their death or the death of their loved ones.  I have been married for 34 wonderful years, have two grown-up children, and retain a strong will to live.

My journey began in October 2002 when I was diagnosed with Prostate cancer at age 49, which was fairly young as the average age is around 65. I underwent surgery (a Radical Prostatectomy) to remove the prostate and the tumor and was "cancer-free" for 5 years. The cancer returned in 2007 and spread quickly to my bones. Numerous bouts of radiation, hormone therapy and chemotherapy were unsuccessful in stopping it and it is now growing at a significant rate. In April 2011, my oncologist told me I probably have between 12 and 18 months left. While these predictions are difficult to make, I still will die within the next few years. I have a lot to say so I'd better move fast.

Prostate Cancer It is the most common male cancer (1 in 6 men will get it in their lifetime). However, There are a lot of treatments for it and, if caught early, it is often curable. Unfortunately, while some of these treatments seemed to have some potentially beneficial effects for me, the side effects have been horrible. It seems that,in addition to having Advanced Prostate Cancer, I am one of those rare people who cannot tolerate most medicines and therefore have had to make the choice between quality of life versus continuing to fight what is an incurable, terminal disease. Following my horrible Chemotherapy experience in May 2011, I decided to discontinue all further treatments and turn my attention to making the best of the time I have left. That means spending time with my family and documenting my experience for others facing a limited time in this existence.

While using Facebook, my Blog and Twitter @douggosling to keep my friends and family up to date on my progress, I will also be commenting and musing on various topics relating to life, the meaning of life, death, and whatever happens thereafter. I will be open, honest and intimate with the hope of making this a meaningful resource.  I think this is the first "social media death watch".

I sincerely hope this helps. Please feel free to comment on my posts or write to me at doug.gosling@gmail.com. Tell me what you think, whether I'm wrong or whether you think I'm onto something.

Peace, Doug